You're young and in love, and she loves you in return, and you know that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. But you can't get married thanks to a law making it illegal – for the sake of society, they say. "You can love her, if you really must," the conservatives tell you, "but you can't marry her. It would be a threat to the American way of life." You don't understand how it's a threat, but you do recognize that they’ve got the law on their side.
However, the marriage isn't illegal in the next state over. So you and your love drive across the state line, get married, and return home, glad that you have found a way to show your commitment to each other, legally and spiritually.
And then the cops show up in the middle of the night, and drag you both to jail.
They give you a choice: you can either serve time (25 years!), or be exiled from the state. Saddened, you and your wife leave the town where you grew up and move away from the friends and family you love.
Some years go by, and you begin to wonder if you'll ever be able to live in the state you were born in. You approach a lawyer, just to see if there's any way around the exile, and are stunned to find out that the lawyer has contacted a civil rights group and they want to take your case to the highest court in the nation.
You are even more stunned when the decision is in your favor: the Supreme Court says that your state's law, the one that kept you from marrying the person you wanted to, was illegal.
June 12, 1967 was the day that the last law in the United States against interracial marriage was struck down, in the decision Loving v. Virginia ("the Loving decision"). Forty years later, a similar fight is being fought by many against laws that tell us we can’t marry people of the same gender as ourselves.
Today is Loving Day. If you have the chance to make any decisions at all today, ask yourself which outcome would increase the amount of kindness and compassion in the world, and choose that one.